Hi, my name is Corrie and I am recovering perfectionist.
Hi, Corrie. #AAmeeting
Growing up, I set very high standards for myself and then beat myself up when I would “fail.” I would overcommit and then grow overwhelmed when I couldn’t keep all the plates spinning and couldn’t keep everyone happy. It made failure very difficult for me. My identity was based on my performance, so when I couldn’t perform, I wasn’t worth very much. No one likes to feel worthless, so back on the performance treadmill I would jump and keep striving.
Nothing I was doing – track and field, school, student government, social activities, volunteering – was inherently bad. I just didn’t allow myself to be human. I did not allow myself to make mistakes. So when I did (because no one is perfect and mistakes are inevitable), my whole world collapsed.
I saw a quote online today that kind of rocked my world.
To me, failure is a swear word – we refrain from using it at all costs. But what a different perspective. Failure is a part of life, it’s a part of being human. So instead of letting my world fall down because I made a mistake, perhaps I can look beyond to something else…some other source of my identity.
When we have a loving earthly father, we have someone who we can confide in. We have a cheerleader. We have a support system. We have a living encyclopedia of life experience to draw from.
Even more so when we see our Heavenly Father as He is: strong, compassionate, patient, and kind.
The nature of failure is a tendency towards isolation – I have failed, so I need to go be by myself.
But the nature of failure should push us towards relationship – running to our Father for comfort.
Let your mistakes propel you forward, into the arms of the most Loving One.
Let your human-ness be a touching point for understanding others, for creating opportunities for vulnerability.
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!
~1 John 3:1
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